The Male Pursuer

When I figured out my attachment style everything changed.

Suddenly the hurt frustration and self-doubt in my relationships all made sense—it wasn’t bad luck or personality clashes; it ran deeper.

Even my career choice made more sense.

I finally began to experience the kind of closeness with my wife that I had always craved but could never quite reach. The tension and anger in my relationship with my father began to fade as I changed the way I interacted with him.

I know what it’s like to feel like you’re “too much.” To doubt yourself because you want deeper connection but have been told that men aren’t supposed to want that.

My name is Phil Merrell and I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor. I’m also a husband father small business owner and follower of Jesus.

This is the group I wish I had—where men learn to understand emotions express needs and truly listen. No games no tricks—just real conversations on building healthy secure relationships.

And I want to share that with you.